My Father sees the beauty in me….
When you read this today, my brother and I will meet our siblings for the first time. The adult children of the two families our father created after leaving our little family of three. From three states, they will interrupt their lives to fly to Seattle, to close the circle and fill in the father-gap. The son he left as an infant and the daughters our father stayed with…until the teen years. Sweet, conclusive closure, for them and for us. God longs for relationships to be restored.
Tony and I didn’t know we had siblings, much less how to find them. In 2011, I did a one-time search on Ancestry.com, using our father’s name. A relative in Norway was using Ancestry to document our family tree. Eric sent an e-mail to the Ness sisters and asked, “What about Nancy?” I didn’t get the e-mails he sent at that time. God’s timing is perfect, his beneficent plan is purposeful and specific for me.
In October 2015, my brother sent a text message to me, “Look at your Facebook page.” I saw a direct message from Courtney who asked, “Did you search Ancestry.com in 2011 for Kenneth Owen Ness?” I followed a link to Courtney’s Facebook page and saw through tear-filled eyes, my mother, brother and grandparents looking back at me. I knew from the photo she posted on her Facebook page we were about to find answers to the questions left unspoken so long ago.
Have you felt the sting of a father who never saw the beauty in you? Were you that four-year-old who needed him to look into your blue eyes and say, “I love you, it’s going to be okay”?
It’s not too late for me and it’s not too late for you.
God is ordering the steps of my life in a specific, God-filled way. [Tweet that!]
Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know. Jeremiah 33:3 NIV
I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord. They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11 NLT
God’s plan, like the unfolding of a cabbage rose, reveals the center of his safe healing. [Tweet that!]